Note: I wrote this post a while ago but never posted it. Today I read this article and like all articles of this nature it got me thinking about life and all its glory.
I think every twenty-something goes through that whole ‘who am I?’, ‘what am I doing with my life?’ phase. I mean, isn’t that what your twenties are for? To find yourself? If you don’t know who you are and what you want then how are you ever supposed to find fulfillment, or even more importantly happiness (I’m talking about the real kind, not the short lived highs, as wonderful as they are). The answer is you won’t.
Before I get too Rachel Gilbert on you, I just wanted to share something that I believe is a really valuable exercise in self-reflection. Who knows, hopefully this might just help you answer some of the big questions.
A wise man once asked me to write down my responses to the following statements. Believe me, it’s harder than it looks.
- Five things about you that you like
- Five things about you that you don’t like/hate
- Five most painful things to you (that’s happened)
- Five things you like about other people
- Five things you want
- Five things you don’t want
- Five magical places you want to see
- Five magical places you never want to see
- Five places you want to go
- Five places you never want to go
- Write down your secrets
- Write down three things that you’re proud of
- Write down three things you regret doing
So, how well do you know yourself? Honestly.
I suggest you give this a go. Think of it as a snapshot of exactly where you’re at in this moment of time. Then maybe look at your answers in six months or a year and try it again. Are you moving forward or are you stuck? It’s interesting how some things change and some things never will.
Have you ever even taken the time to sit down and think about what it is you really enjoy? What gives you that buzz that you can’t shake? What do you get absolutely lost in that minutes become hours which become days and you never get bored? Unless you actually figure out all the things you want and go chase then with the tenacity of a bulldog then you’re at risk of falling into one of those means to an end kind of lives. Living hell? I think so. Believe me, it’s easy to coast. And easy is boring.
Figure out you want, go chase it, and don’t look back. Start ticking off the boxes on that bucket list and make your own shit happen (I can’t stress that point enough!). Be spontaneous and do something crazy. Trust me, it’s fucking fun! Embrace your free-spirited youth. It’s a blessing.
At the end of the day it’s all just a wild ride. Don’t sit still…
Think about it.